In Preparation

I posted a few days ago about where my life is headed, and where I feel God is leading me. There is so much I feel He wants me to do eventually. That doesn’t mean I can just sit and relax right now though. This is a season of preparation. So what do I need to do during this season? I am sure God will add some things to my list, but here is what I hear Him say loud and clear:

1. Read My Bible Daily
Hey! I already made a post about that! I need to do this and stick to it daily. Even if it is only a few pages, I trust that God will bless my time spent in His word, even if it is sometimes less than it should be.

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2. Read
I have been reading, and will continue to read books on marriage, family, womanhood, and home life. Sure, I have business books in there as I am building a Young Living business, but the bulk of my time needs to be devoted to my home and learning to run it better at the moment.

3. Work
There seems to be a common theme in so many of the verses that have stuck out at me in my reading in the last week or so. It is an area that I feel the Holy Spirit is especially trying to work on in my life. The theme? Laziness. I am so very prone to laziness. I hate admitting that, but the fact is that it is true.

“A lazy person is as bad as someone who destroys things” Proverbs 18:9 NLT

“A little extra sleep, a little more slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest-
then poverty will pounce on you like a bandit; scarcity will attack you like an armed robber.” Proverbs 6:10-11 NLT

“She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness.” Proverbs 31:27 NLT

That second verse has stuck in my head since reading it. Thankfully, it has helped me to get a better start on the day. I have never been a morning person, and I will admit that even now I get the most work done in the evenings, but I have started getting my Bible reading in at a time I would normally rush to bed until my youngest two kids wake up. This has been such a blessing.

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Now when I say work, I do not mean that I plan to go back to full, or even part-time employment. I need to be a diligent worker in my home. I need to make my home a place my husband wants to come home to. I need to make my home an environment conducive to learning and growing for my kids. Those two things alone require daily chores to be done.

These are the areas that are most important to me in this season of life, so they require a great deal of time and effort right now.

I intend to build a successful and profitable Young Living business as well. I have a plan in place on being more consistent with my work in this area. I trust the Lord to make my seeds profitable in His time.

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Thanks so much for reading.

~ Sara Sherrell
Rockin’ Oily Momma

Why Titus 2? Why me?

A quote has been going around facebook. You may have seen it and even liked it: “God doesn’t call the qualified, he qualifies the called.” I really liked this quote when I first heard it. That is until I felt a strong calling on my life, and even more so as I feel God’s call becoming louder and louder. I feel like Moses asking “Are you sure you want me, God?” I have a pretty good list of reasons to not do this. There are so very women far more qualified than myself.

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I feel a strong calling toward a Titus 2 ministry, to encouraging other women in being godly wives and mothers. Why me, though? For twelve years I have made so many mistakes in my marriage. I have been an utter failure at step-parenthood. My parenting is disastrous. So why on earth would I be asked to do such a thing? The biggest reason that I can think of is that I feel as though I have been failed as a wife, as a woman who grew up in the church, and spent the better part of her life there.

You see, when I met my leader in Young Living, she mentioned Titus 2 more than once. I looked it up, and this is what I found:

“Older men are to be temperate, dignified, sensible, sound in faith, in love, in perseverance. Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to too much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.” Titus 2:2-5 New American Standard Bible

Why had I never heard this scripture in all my years in the church? I never paid much attention to the men of the church I grew up in, other than the pastor and he absolutely fit the bill for all the character traits listed for men. The women though? I saw a few examples of women who exuded the qualities Titus states women should be and teach. I often saw and heard gossip though. Instruction from women of faith I knew was often worldly, not Biblical.

The biggest disappointment for me, though? Did I feel encouraged in loving my husband? I was clueless about how to love my husband well. I have had to find answers for myself, mainly through the books I read. Despite that I still feel like a failure more often than not because I do not have a steady example of this kind of woman in my life to watch and emulate, I am called to be one.

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Despite my failures in the past, and even while continuing to fail even now, I encourage. Marriage is tough. People tell you it is, but no one is truly prepared how tough things can really get. That is why men need other men speaking Truth over them. That is why women need godly women pouring into them. That is why women need a sensible man who is sound in faith, love and perseverance as a husband to lead her.

I don’t feel prepared to start a ministry. I don’t feel that is what He wants me to do YET. I do, however, feel he wants me to encourage women going through difficult times. Having had a dear friend speak life and truth into me during my darkest hours has been an incredible blessing, and I hope to be able to bless other women in the same way. I pray that more women and men in the church will see the importance of these verses, and find ways to put them into action. I will write more soon.

~ Sara Sherrell
Rockin’ Oily Momma

Read Your Bible

I have never been much of a morning person, but I remember one morning that my leader and mentor Carrie invited me to an early morning leadership meeting for her Young Living team, Shepard’s Gate. I dreaded the earliness of it, but I loved time learning from Carrie, and time spent with oily friends always makes me feel energized, no matter how much or how little sleep I have had. Those monthly meetings were small at the time and held at a coffee shop.

The very first meeting that I attended, Carrie sowed many seeds of wisdom to those of us present, but one thing she said toward the end of the meeting stuck with me. Read your Bible daily, for you.

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You see, so often we get into a pattern of reading the Bible for the benefit of imparting wisdom to our husbands or children, or to others in our lives. It is important, though, to spend time in God’s word for your own benefit. There is so much wisdom and truth to be found there. Just hearing the truth from others isn’t enough. Those who take the time to search for truth will be in a better position to understand and make use of the new-found knowledge.

I would like to say that I implemented it immediately and have consistently abided by this. I struggle in this area. Truth be told, it has been months since I picked up my Bible, other than searching for certain verses that I want to quote correctly, and for the readings in church. I finally got into the word this morning, and it has made my morning so much better. I had left off in Proverbs, which has always been my favorite chapter.

Many months after I heard these wise words from her, I watch the VeggieTales video Gideon the Tuba Warrior. I had never heard of George Mueller before, but I was intrigued by his story, which I will let you find for yourself. Later I remember reading the number of recorded times that he had read the Bible from cover to cover. It all made so much sense then. When you are spending that much time in His word, learning about Him and His character, it is easier to trust in His divine provision. The closer we are in relationship with anyone, the more we are able to trust and submit. I started reading then, but soon fizzled out.

About a year ago the Lauren Daigle song First came out. This song seemed to come on every time I turned on the car radio. I instantly fell in love with it when I listened to the words.

I was convicted every time I heard it. Was I seeking Him first? Was He my treasure and my reward? Do I ask for my needs and desires to be met before I give my heart? Do I take the time to know Him, to find Him? Do I listen to Him before I start with what I have to say? The answer to all these questions was a regretful no. Despite the Holy Spirit’s prodding with this song, I still dragged my feet on getting in His word.

Here is the problem. I feel a significant calling on my life to fill a need that is not being met. Unfortunately, I have no idea where to start. I feel like a failure in all areas of home life. There are so many who believe me to be a failure. How do I move past that all and do what He calls me to do? I don’t. I can’t. He can do this great task through me, but I absolutely cannot do it on my own. I need to be in relationship with Him daily.

I am in a season of preparation now. I can’t become who I need to be if I am not listening to His voice and His truth. It is time for me to read my Bible daily for me. I pray that you will do the same.

~ Sara Sherrell
Rockin’ Oily Momma

Advice from Broke Unhappy People

I wanted to talk today about another nugget of wisdom from my awesome mentor, Carrie. I had forgotten these words for awhile, but I recently remembered. I was at her house long ago lamenting on some things that I wanted that I was being discouraged in from many people in my life. She listened to me tell her my dreams, then why they would never happen according to all the voices speaking into my life at the time. When I was finished she that I needed to stop taking advice from broke unhappy people.

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After I left her house, I started to notice that the people telling me to give up hope on their dreams are unhappy people who, if I were to guess, gave up on their dreams. I see the reasons that many give up. They aren’t bad reasons. They aren’t bad people. Sometimes dreams need to be put on hold. Sometimes, however, it just simply means being more creative in the means of obtaining a goal.

Here is the thing about unhappy people: they don’t want to be alone in their unhappiness. They tell you that settling is simply what you have to do as an adult. Is that really true though? There are many people who pursue their dreams and their passions while still working jobs that don’t necessarily line up with their purpose. There are many of those same people who do end up successful financially while fulfilling thier God-given purpose and passion. I shouldn’t have to give up on that just because someone else did. I don’t have to join you in being miserable.

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There is so much I want to say there, but I will leave those thoughts for a bit.

Years later, as that quote came to mind again, I found myself asking myself why I would take advice from anyone who is a failure at what I want to succeed at. You see, there is no shortage of people who will tell you what they think you should do. Funny how often that advice is unsolicited. I started to realize though that not only was the advice often against what I felt would be the biblical response, it was often coming from someone who was struggling in the same area, or sometimes even completely failing in that area.

I will not seek health advice from someone who is sick on a regular basis. I won’t take marriage advice from someone whose longest relationship was two years. I don’t need financial advice from someone with several repossessions on their credit. I don’t ask someone who hates children for parenting advice.

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If I want to be success at anything in life, it will be because I sought the counsel of someone who is already doing well in those areas. So for now, I seek out godly wives and mothers. Those are the areas of my life that are most important to me at the moment. I want to be excellent in these areas, so wise words from people excelling in these areas are like honey to me. Their words give me hope.

~ Sara Sherrell

Rockin’ Oily Momma

Wisdom from my Friend

In case you couldn’t tell by my previous post, I absolutely adore my friend Carrie. She has made such a difference in my life. We met because of essential oils, but she has spoken so much truth and life into me that is far more than just essential oils, or business. She has taught me who I want to be as a woman, a wife, and a mother. She has also set me on a path that I never would have dreamed as she helped me see a need that is not being filled well.

When I met Carrie, I truly doubted I would ever have a son. My husband had 4 amazing daughters when I met him and we had recently had a daughter together. Almost everyone who knew my husband told me not to get my hopes up because, well, just look at my husband’s history. They told me that Sherrell boys don’t have boys. I told Carrie about how I had longed for a son since shortly after my high school days were over. Carrie gave me the book Supernatural Childbirth, which I still maintain is a must-read for any follower of Christ who is of child-bearing age. It’s not just about natural childbirth, it’s about believing God for the desires of your heart, after all, it is He who put them there!

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At that time in my life, well for most of my life, I was a rule follower. I did my best to follow the rules, and do what was expected, without asking any questions. I rarely had a solid opinion on anything, and generally trusted all authority figures to have my best interest in mind. Then Carrie began to ask me some questions that changed the way I thought, and the advice I allowed myself to consider.

The first thing she asked me, still in regard to my mis-belief that I couldn’t have a son was “Is that biblically true?” The truth that people share can often be distorted, changed, or just plain wrong. God’s truth has been the same for thousands of years. Some of it may not be popular, but it is truth none the less. So if that belief that I held was not of God, than it is not truth. Wow! That set a change in me as I read through the Bible.

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I read Eve’s exclamation “With God’s help I have brought forth a son.” I prayed that I would be Eve, and that I would always remember God’s work in my family. I read of Sarah, having a beloved son in her old age. While I was older than many childbearing women, I was certainly not as old as my namesake! If God could give Sarah a son, he could do the same for me. The one that resonated with me most was reading of Hannah. She wept and cried, begging God for a child. She was so distraught that the priest thought she was drunk, she explained the pain of her unfulfilled desire for a child. The priest told her that God would grant her a son. I remember reading that and seeing how God just wants us to he honest with Him. If things suck, tell God the truth about your hurts, and ask Him to help you trust His goodness in the situation.

We conceived a child (our second together). When I asked Robbie about an ultrasound and finding out the gender, he said he didn’t want to know. We had prayed for a baby and waited close to a year before my positive test, we didn’t want to spend any time disappointed over gender. I remember so many people who said the suspense of not knowing was killing them while I was pregnant. I remember a peace and deep knowing that God was going to give me a son. I will never forget the moment my husband turned to tell me through tears “It’s a boy!”

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God is so good! He is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow. If what you believe is not from God in His Word, then you need to really examine whether it is true. His truth is the only truth that matters.

I completely went in a direction different from what I had planned with this blog post, but I feel I need to leave it as is because someone needs to see this, so I will have yet more on that lovely friend of mine soon.

~ Sara
Rockin’ Oily Momma

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A Wonderful Mentor and Friend

Have you met someone who changed your life in a positive way? Someone so full of love and passion and encouragement that you couldn’t help but crave more time with them as you listen to their wisdom, even if the words you are hearing aren’t what you want to hear?

I was blessed to meet such a person somewhere around 6 years ago, I don’t know the exact day. Life began to change all those years ago when I borrowed the husband’s car to drive after church to a meeting for a doula organization that was having a meeting in Norman. I was and still am passionate about childbirth, so a doula friend who was in midwifery training at the time invited me. The topic was essential oils for pregnancy and childbirth. I had never been an essential oil user before, so I had no idea what to expect, I just knew that I wanted to spend as much time as possible around other birth workers as possible.

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The meeting was taught by Carrie McVige. I was moved by her authenticity and vulnerability when telling her story of how she came to discover the essential oils, and the huge impact they have had on her life. I kept in touch with her for months before I finally committed to buying a starter kit. While she has, and continues to mentor me in Young Living usage and business, this post is about far more important things.

After I ordered my kit, she invited me to her home for a raindrop. Before the raindrop though, she spent a good deal of time talking to me about life. She took the time to hear my heart, and my deepest desires: my yearning to have a son, and to have time to be a good mom.

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She was such an encouragement through the worst storms of my marriage, and I will always be grateful for her speaking the difficult truth when she asked me if I really felt divorce was what I wanted for me and my family. The answer was an absolute no. She spent so much time during that time praying for me and encouraging me to work on improving myself to be the wife and mom I wanted to be. All during a time when I was so emotionally damaged that I didn’t know if it was even possible to be either.

She prayed for me all the years that I wanted to have a son, but doubted whether a Sherrell boy would ever be a reality in our home. Just recently she asked me to tell the story of our boy, then she teared up as I was telling it. That was a wonderful moment for me. It is so easy to get busy in the hustle and bustle of everyday life and forget how blessed you are. Sometimes you forget all God’s faithful answers to prayer.

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There are so many things I could say about the woman who I am blessed to know, and I will say more in my next post. For now I want to end by thanking my friend with the most beautiful heart for teaching me who I want to be, so that I know how I want to bless other women.

Much love,
Sara Sherrell
Rockin’ Oily Momma

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