Just Give It Away

There was a song I loved years ago by George Straight called “Just Give it Away.” It wasn’t necessarily a sentiment I shared at the time, I was (am) happily married with many children in the home. I suppose I just liked the tune, plus, it’s George Straight!

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The song related a woman coming home to tell her husband to just give everything in the home away, there is nothing worth fighting over and they are both over the fighting. So, just give it (ring included) away. It was just a silly song to me at the time, but today I sit here reflecting on the average American lifestyle, and can’t help but feel disappointed. Some things just aren’t meant to be thrown away.

We live in a “throw away” society. That’s what my kids used to say instead of the word disposable, throw away. What is sad though is just how accurate that word tends to be. Is there truly anything we can’t just throw away or dispose ourselves of these days?

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We have disposable cups, plates, napkins, and silverware. Just throw it away I have heard myself tell my kids. I ask my older kids to bring me a diaper, they ask whether I want the throw away kind because they are easier than cloth. We have disposable or throw away everything these days. This goes all the way up to jobs, friendships, and even marriages.

Didn’t get the promotion (that you weren’t the most qualified candidate for)? Just throw it away; there are other jobs out there. Your friend isn’t there for you when you need her? Well, throw that friendship away too; there are other people out there. Marriage is getting hard? Well, you can throw that away too. Everyone else does, so why not you?

What if you stuck it out though? What if you worked harder on the necessary job and people skills necessary to land that promotion? What would happen if you committed to personal growth? What if you looked at the friendship and what you could do to BE a better friend? What would happen if you committed to being there for your friends? What if you fought harder for your marriage? What would happen if you committed to being a better spouse, to working toward making your marriage and home happier?

I beg of you, find something, anything that you are willing to commit to. Commit fully, and fight for the things, and most especially the people, that are important to you. No doubt, the enemy will be around to test you and break your commitment and willingness to fight. Do It Anyway!Prayer and wise counsel are important, so seek them out. Persist, and hold on to the good that you have in your live. Don’t “Just Give It Away.”

Blessings,
Sara Sherrell
Rockin’ Oily Momma

ResOILute Takeaway

I recently attended ResOILute Women’s Conference, an event put on by one of my local Diamond Young Living leaders. The theme of the conference was guarding your heart.

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During the question and answer session, we were able to hear the heart of the 4 panel discussion experts, each different ranks within Young Living and each with their own story. This was so powerful to me, especially hearing from Sera Johnson.

Sera shared about making it to the top ranks of the company by happily doing her own thing. As she made it to the top, she began to look around at what other people were doing and feel as though she needed to begin doing those things too. It was then that she started to just feel “blah” when it came to sharing. It was a feeling she had never had and she didn’t like it. She grew into more and more of a funk until she finally said “God, I don’t like this! Get me out of this funk, whatever it takes.” So God asked her what she had been doing before. She started thinking on all the things she loved about sharing in Young Living. Just thinking about things that SHE loved started getting her passions back up. When she finally stopped rambling on about what she loved and why, God told her “Well do that.”

Isn’t that incredible?! Just do what you love because I created you to love those things and I created you to shine in those areas. So do it!

It is so easy to look at what others are doing and get distracted from what you love to do, what you are good at, what you are called to do.

That was a huge takeaway for me! She encouraged everyone to find her niche. If you don’t know what that looks like, take a look at your passions. If you have been so caught up with the monotony of everyday life that you have no idea what your passions are, consider what you used to be passionate about. Then consider your strengths. What comes easy to you. If you don’t know, ask someone close to you what strengths and gifts they see in you. Now take a look and see how you can use those things to find your personal niche.

The biggest passion that I want to focus on is strong God-centered marriages. Now I fail in this area daily, but nonetheless I always want to improve and love to encourage other women who also want to be godly wives and mothers. I can do that through my writing. I can also share from my heart on Young Living products that help me and my family in this area.

So be expecting to hear a lot more from me on things I use in my home. I will be here on a more consistent basis, Lord willing!

Blessings,
Sara Sherrell
Rockin’ Oily Momma

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Discipline

Discipline. This topic has been on my mind and on my heart for a bit now. I had planned on typing up this blog post a week ago. Then kids, dishes, laundry, Halloween, and well, let’s just be honest here… I lack discipline.

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I always have. Always. In elementary school I rarely did my homework. I had all the excuses and no discipline. I understood the work and the assignments, my test scores proved that. My grades were pitiful. Middle school was just as bad until my dad talked my English teacher into having me bring home a detention slip to be signed by my parents for every assignment I didn’t turn in on time. High school was more of the same until I took a look at my mom’s job and the glass ceiling she faced for not having a college degree. I decided that I needed to get better grades and a bit of discipline my junior and senior year. Even then, I did the bare minimum to keep my grades at A’s and B’s. Truth be told, I also was highly motivated by the thought of being exempted from my semester tests.

All that carries into adulthood and really caught up with me this week. I had so much that I wanted to do and needed to do around the house. I want my husband to feel that my being a stay at home mom is worthwhile. The condition of our house last week had me saying that it wasn’t. I had a host of excuses, again, no discipline. I want to be a stay at home mom, and I want to do fun things with my babies. So we lollygagged around the house each morning (because I am not a morning person AT ALL) before heading out for fun at the park, pumpkin patch, or Halloween activities at various locations.

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Then Saturday night as I was getting my kids into bed I was hit hard with what I was teaching my kids. I am teaching them through my actions and lack of discipline that doing the important and responsible things can wait if there is a fun thing to do. Is that really what I want to teach my kids? Goodness gracious no!

So now I am on a mission to develop some discipline in my life. In so many areas of my life. In caring for my home and those in it, in my health (must start exercising), and especially in my business.

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I have watched so many people pass me by in these areas and had my own private pity party asking myself “Why not me?” Discipline. That is the hard to face truthful answer. I must develop discipline in order to have the things I want most in life. I absolutely need to teach my kids the importance of discipline. They need to see mom living as an example that fun is great to have, but sometimes there are more important things that need to come first.

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So I am on a mission. I am developing a plan and diffusing and applying lots of oils of course! I will develop discipline, and my life and the lives of my babies will be so much better for it.

Blessings,
Sara Sherrell
Rockin’ Oily Momma

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Meet the Best People

Young Living is a great way to meet some of the best people!

Jim Rohn is quoted as saying “You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”

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I have found this to be absolutely true! There was a time that all of my time was spent around negative, unhappy people. During those times I found ever so much to be unhappy about.

Thankfully for me, about six years ago I joined Young Living, and through this amazing company I have met some amazing people. I have posted many times about my dear friend Carrie.

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I also met her amazing daughter, the now Diamond leader Sara Wallace. Her and I did a vendor booth together years ago which was fun. It has been even more fun to watch her grow into an amazing leader, wife, and mom. She is always learning and growing and challenges those around her to do the same.

My favorite though is one that I met at another vendor booth for a cloth diapering mom’s group. I met my friend Tonya there, among many other people. Who knew then that she would end up being one of my favorite friends?

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That’s the beauty of Young Living. You meet like minded people who have similar goals, so you end up wanting to spend time with them, encouraging them in the pursuit of those goals. You learn and grow together, celebrating the successes of the people you care about.

It’s not just about business, though. When you truly find “your tribe,” you truly value the friendship, you form a true friendship. You share, laugh, and go through the happy and the tough moments of life together. In fact, we recently scheduled time together to work. We ended up doing no work. We talked and watched our kids play together the whole time. All the work was done through text later that evening!

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Meeting people with goals and vision can help motivate you to find then reach your own goals and vision. The best way to succeed in life is to surround yourself with people who are already successful in the areas of life that you want to improve.

Young Living has them all! I have met faith-filled wives and mothers. I have met influential business leaders. I have met humble home-schooling moms. I have met health gurus. I have also met some of the most giving and generous people I know.

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I want to be more like all these ladies (well, I am not so sure on the home school business, haha). I admire the amazing ladies I have met through Young Living and value their friendship. I hope to spend more and more time with these kinds of people. They are my tribe. I want to be like them, so I like to spend my time and energy with them.

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~ Sara Sherrell
Rockin’ Oily Momma

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In Preparation

I posted a few days ago about where my life is headed, and where I feel God is leading me. There is so much I feel He wants me to do eventually. That doesn’t mean I can just sit and relax right now though. This is a season of preparation. So what do I need to do during this season? I am sure God will add some things to my list, but here is what I hear Him say loud and clear:

1. Read My Bible Daily
Hey! I already made a post about that! I need to do this and stick to it daily. Even if it is only a few pages, I trust that God will bless my time spent in His word, even if it is sometimes less than it should be.

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2. Read
I have been reading, and will continue to read books on marriage, family, womanhood, and home life. Sure, I have business books in there as I am building a Young Living business, but the bulk of my time needs to be devoted to my home and learning to run it better at the moment.

3. Work
There seems to be a common theme in so many of the verses that have stuck out at me in my reading in the last week or so. It is an area that I feel the Holy Spirit is especially trying to work on in my life. The theme? Laziness. I am so very prone to laziness. I hate admitting that, but the fact is that it is true.

“A lazy person is as bad as someone who destroys things” Proverbs 18:9 NLT

“A little extra sleep, a little more slumber, a little folding of the hands to rest-
then poverty will pounce on you like a bandit; scarcity will attack you like an armed robber.” Proverbs 6:10-11 NLT

“She carefully watches everything in her household and suffers nothing from laziness.” Proverbs 31:27 NLT

That second verse has stuck in my head since reading it. Thankfully, it has helped me to get a better start on the day. I have never been a morning person, and I will admit that even now I get the most work done in the evenings, but I have started getting my Bible reading in at a time I would normally rush to bed until my youngest two kids wake up. This has been such a blessing.

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Now when I say work, I do not mean that I plan to go back to full, or even part-time employment. I need to be a diligent worker in my home. I need to make my home a place my husband wants to come home to. I need to make my home an environment conducive to learning and growing for my kids. Those two things alone require daily chores to be done.

These are the areas that are most important to me in this season of life, so they require a great deal of time and effort right now.

I intend to build a successful and profitable Young Living business as well. I have a plan in place on being more consistent with my work in this area. I trust the Lord to make my seeds profitable in His time.

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Thanks so much for reading.

~ Sara Sherrell
Rockin’ Oily Momma

Why Titus 2? Why me?

A quote has been going around facebook. You may have seen it and even liked it: “God doesn’t call the qualified, he qualifies the called.” I really liked this quote when I first heard it. That is until I felt a strong calling on my life, and even more so as I feel God’s call becoming louder and louder. I feel like Moses asking “Are you sure you want me, God?” I have a pretty good list of reasons to not do this. There are so very women far more qualified than myself.

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I feel a strong calling toward a Titus 2 ministry, to encouraging other women in being godly wives and mothers. Why me, though? For twelve years I have made so many mistakes in my marriage. I have been an utter failure at step-parenthood. My parenting is disastrous. So why on earth would I be asked to do such a thing? The biggest reason that I can think of is that I feel as though I have been failed as a wife, as a woman who grew up in the church, and spent the better part of her life there.

You see, when I met my leader in Young Living, she mentioned Titus 2 more than once. I looked it up, and this is what I found:

“Older men are to be temperate, dignified, sensible, sound in faith, in love, in perseverance. Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to too much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.” Titus 2:2-5 New American Standard Bible

Why had I never heard this scripture in all my years in the church? I never paid much attention to the men of the church I grew up in, other than the pastor and he absolutely fit the bill for all the character traits listed for men. The women though? I saw a few examples of women who exuded the qualities Titus states women should be and teach. I often saw and heard gossip though. Instruction from women of faith I knew was often worldly, not Biblical.

The biggest disappointment for me, though? Did I feel encouraged in loving my husband? I was clueless about how to love my husband well. I have had to find answers for myself, mainly through the books I read. Despite that I still feel like a failure more often than not because I do not have a steady example of this kind of woman in my life to watch and emulate, I am called to be one.

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Despite my failures in the past, and even while continuing to fail even now, I encourage. Marriage is tough. People tell you it is, but no one is truly prepared how tough things can really get. That is why men need other men speaking Truth over them. That is why women need godly women pouring into them. That is why women need a sensible man who is sound in faith, love and perseverance as a husband to lead her.

I don’t feel prepared to start a ministry. I don’t feel that is what He wants me to do YET. I do, however, feel he wants me to encourage women going through difficult times. Having had a dear friend speak life and truth into me during my darkest hours has been an incredible blessing, and I hope to be able to bless other women in the same way. I pray that more women and men in the church will see the importance of these verses, and find ways to put them into action. I will write more soon.

~ Sara Sherrell
Rockin’ Oily Momma

Read Your Bible

I have never been much of a morning person, but I remember one morning that my leader and mentor Carrie invited me to an early morning leadership meeting for her Young Living team, Shepard’s Gate. I dreaded the earliness of it, but I loved time learning from Carrie, and time spent with oily friends always makes me feel energized, no matter how much or how little sleep I have had. Those monthly meetings were small at the time and held at a coffee shop.

The very first meeting that I attended, Carrie sowed many seeds of wisdom to those of us present, but one thing she said toward the end of the meeting stuck with me. Read your Bible daily, for you.

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You see, so often we get into a pattern of reading the Bible for the benefit of imparting wisdom to our husbands or children, or to others in our lives. It is important, though, to spend time in God’s word for your own benefit. There is so much wisdom and truth to be found there. Just hearing the truth from others isn’t enough. Those who take the time to search for truth will be in a better position to understand and make use of the new-found knowledge.

I would like to say that I implemented it immediately and have consistently abided by this. I struggle in this area. Truth be told, it has been months since I picked up my Bible, other than searching for certain verses that I want to quote correctly, and for the readings in church. I finally got into the word this morning, and it has made my morning so much better. I had left off in Proverbs, which has always been my favorite chapter.

Many months after I heard these wise words from her, I watch the VeggieTales video Gideon the Tuba Warrior. I had never heard of George Mueller before, but I was intrigued by his story, which I will let you find for yourself. Later I remember reading the number of recorded times that he had read the Bible from cover to cover. It all made so much sense then. When you are spending that much time in His word, learning about Him and His character, it is easier to trust in His divine provision. The closer we are in relationship with anyone, the more we are able to trust and submit. I started reading then, but soon fizzled out.

About a year ago the Lauren Daigle song First came out. This song seemed to come on every time I turned on the car radio. I instantly fell in love with it when I listened to the words.

I was convicted every time I heard it. Was I seeking Him first? Was He my treasure and my reward? Do I ask for my needs and desires to be met before I give my heart? Do I take the time to know Him, to find Him? Do I listen to Him before I start with what I have to say? The answer to all these questions was a regretful no. Despite the Holy Spirit’s prodding with this song, I still dragged my feet on getting in His word.

Here is the problem. I feel a significant calling on my life to fill a need that is not being met. Unfortunately, I have no idea where to start. I feel like a failure in all areas of home life. There are so many who believe me to be a failure. How do I move past that all and do what He calls me to do? I don’t. I can’t. He can do this great task through me, but I absolutely cannot do it on my own. I need to be in relationship with Him daily.

I am in a season of preparation now. I can’t become who I need to be if I am not listening to His voice and His truth. It is time for me to read my Bible daily for me. I pray that you will do the same.

~ Sara Sherrell
Rockin’ Oily Momma

Wisdom from my Friend

In case you couldn’t tell by my previous post, I absolutely adore my friend Carrie. She has made such a difference in my life. We met because of essential oils, but she has spoken so much truth and life into me that is far more than just essential oils, or business. She has taught me who I want to be as a woman, a wife, and a mother. She has also set me on a path that I never would have dreamed as she helped me see a need that is not being filled well.

When I met Carrie, I truly doubted I would ever have a son. My husband had 4 amazing daughters when I met him and we had recently had a daughter together. Almost everyone who knew my husband told me not to get my hopes up because, well, just look at my husband’s history. They told me that Sherrell boys don’t have boys. I told Carrie about how I had longed for a son since shortly after my high school days were over. Carrie gave me the book Supernatural Childbirth, which I still maintain is a must-read for any follower of Christ who is of child-bearing age. It’s not just about natural childbirth, it’s about believing God for the desires of your heart, after all, it is He who put them there!

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At that time in my life, well for most of my life, I was a rule follower. I did my best to follow the rules, and do what was expected, without asking any questions. I rarely had a solid opinion on anything, and generally trusted all authority figures to have my best interest in mind. Then Carrie began to ask me some questions that changed the way I thought, and the advice I allowed myself to consider.

The first thing she asked me, still in regard to my mis-belief that I couldn’t have a son was “Is that biblically true?” The truth that people share can often be distorted, changed, or just plain wrong. God’s truth has been the same for thousands of years. Some of it may not be popular, but it is truth none the less. So if that belief that I held was not of God, than it is not truth. Wow! That set a change in me as I read through the Bible.

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I read Eve’s exclamation “With God’s help I have brought forth a son.” I prayed that I would be Eve, and that I would always remember God’s work in my family. I read of Sarah, having a beloved son in her old age. While I was older than many childbearing women, I was certainly not as old as my namesake! If God could give Sarah a son, he could do the same for me. The one that resonated with me most was reading of Hannah. She wept and cried, begging God for a child. She was so distraught that the priest thought she was drunk, she explained the pain of her unfulfilled desire for a child. The priest told her that God would grant her a son. I remember reading that and seeing how God just wants us to he honest with Him. If things suck, tell God the truth about your hurts, and ask Him to help you trust His goodness in the situation.

We conceived a child (our second together). When I asked Robbie about an ultrasound and finding out the gender, he said he didn’t want to know. We had prayed for a baby and waited close to a year before my positive test, we didn’t want to spend any time disappointed over gender. I remember so many people who said the suspense of not knowing was killing them while I was pregnant. I remember a peace and deep knowing that God was going to give me a son. I will never forget the moment my husband turned to tell me through tears “It’s a boy!”

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God is so good! He is the same yesterday, today and tomorrow. If what you believe is not from God in His Word, then you need to really examine whether it is true. His truth is the only truth that matters.

I completely went in a direction different from what I had planned with this blog post, but I feel I need to leave it as is because someone needs to see this, so I will have yet more on that lovely friend of mine soon.

~ Sara
Rockin’ Oily Momma

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A Wonderful Mentor and Friend

Have you met someone who changed your life in a positive way? Someone so full of love and passion and encouragement that you couldn’t help but crave more time with them as you listen to their wisdom, even if the words you are hearing aren’t what you want to hear?

I was blessed to meet such a person somewhere around 6 years ago, I don’t know the exact day. Life began to change all those years ago when I borrowed the husband’s car to drive after church to a meeting for a doula organization that was having a meeting in Norman. I was and still am passionate about childbirth, so a doula friend who was in midwifery training at the time invited me. The topic was essential oils for pregnancy and childbirth. I had never been an essential oil user before, so I had no idea what to expect, I just knew that I wanted to spend as much time as possible around other birth workers as possible.

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The meeting was taught by Carrie McVige. I was moved by her authenticity and vulnerability when telling her story of how she came to discover the essential oils, and the huge impact they have had on her life. I kept in touch with her for months before I finally committed to buying a starter kit. While she has, and continues to mentor me in Young Living usage and business, this post is about far more important things.

After I ordered my kit, she invited me to her home for a raindrop. Before the raindrop though, she spent a good deal of time talking to me about life. She took the time to hear my heart, and my deepest desires: my yearning to have a son, and to have time to be a good mom.

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She was such an encouragement through the worst storms of my marriage, and I will always be grateful for her speaking the difficult truth when she asked me if I really felt divorce was what I wanted for me and my family. The answer was an absolute no. She spent so much time during that time praying for me and encouraging me to work on improving myself to be the wife and mom I wanted to be. All during a time when I was so emotionally damaged that I didn’t know if it was even possible to be either.

She prayed for me all the years that I wanted to have a son, but doubted whether a Sherrell boy would ever be a reality in our home. Just recently she asked me to tell the story of our boy, then she teared up as I was telling it. That was a wonderful moment for me. It is so easy to get busy in the hustle and bustle of everyday life and forget how blessed you are. Sometimes you forget all God’s faithful answers to prayer.

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There are so many things I could say about the woman who I am blessed to know, and I will say more in my next post. For now I want to end by thanking my friend with the most beautiful heart for teaching me who I want to be, so that I know how I want to bless other women.

Much love,
Sara Sherrell
Rockin’ Oily Momma

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Mastering Self Motivation

Self motivation is sometimes incredibly difficult, but is essential in the process of achieving a long-term goal. This is something that has come up in my life, both at recent leadership meetings, and in an audiobook I am currently listening to.

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When you first set a goal, you are super excited about it. The sheer enthusiasm will help you to perform the necessary work. If it is a true long-term goal, though, it can be difficult to maintain the same level of enthusiasm for months and years. Add to that the negative people and difficulties that life tends to throw at you, and it is very easy to lose sight of what you are working for, or even to give up all together.

Another issue for me, personally, was discussed by Sandi Krakowski in one of her podcasts. Perfectionism. This is not just an issue in my Young Living business, but in my home life as well. If I am going to take the time to do something, I want to do it right, I want to do it well. I want an A+, I want to be noticed and recognized for a job well done. So I don’t start my projects, I put them off until later, and later, and later. Uhm, this blog hasn’t been updated since when?!

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So at a recent leadership meeting, one of my leaders talked about a method of self motivation called carrot and stick. Your carrot is that awesome thing you want bad and will work hard for. This is your positive reinforcement. Your stick is that negative thing you do not want in your life which may be possible if  you do not take action. You use this to whip your own fanny when getting out of bed and doing the work it takes to get where you want to go seems more difficult than usual. This is the negative reinforcement.

Anyone can easily come up with a carrot and stick that applies to his or her life, then call these to mind in order to stay the course and keep moving forward no matter how difficult, no matter how arduous the task, no matter how many naysayers are around to try to keep you down.

So here is what I came up with: My carrot is being financially free and able to travel with my family and help those in needs in ways that I am called by my Creator. My stick is being stuck in a “healthcare” job forever while continuing to miss all of the big events in the lives of those I love. Needless to say these are personal to me, and likely wouldn’t apply to you, or simply wouldn’t work for you. The key is to find your own carrot and stick.

Let me just say that this has helped tremendously for me! When the urge to go to bed at a decent hour hits, I remember missing Easter recently due to work. This was the first year for my son to really hunt eggs, and I had bought him a suit and would have loved seeing him in it. I stay up and I write. I go to the library to finally update this blog. I teach classes and think on ways to improve on my systems. Some day my kids and I will enjoy a nice cruise to a white sandy beach as a reward for my efforts!

So tell me, what is your carrot and stick?

Blessings,
Sara Sherrell
Rockin’ Oily Momma

P.S. I will have more to say on self motivation in my next blog post. See you soon!

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