Self motivation is sometimes incredibly difficult, but is essential in the process of achieving a long-term goal. This is something that has come up in my life, both at recent leadership meetings, and in an audiobook I am currently listening to.
When you first set a goal, you are super excited about it. The sheer enthusiasm will help you to perform the necessary work. If it is a true long-term goal, though, it can be difficult to maintain the same level of enthusiasm for months and years. Add to that the negative people and difficulties that life tends to throw at you, and it is very easy to lose sight of what you are working for, or even to give up all together.
Another issue for me, personally, was discussed by Sandi Krakowski in one of her podcasts. Perfectionism. This is not just an issue in my Young Living business, but in my home life as well. If I am going to take the time to do something, I want to do it right, I want to do it well. I want an A+, I want to be noticed and recognized for a job well done. So I don’t start my projects, I put them off until later, and later, and later. Uhm, this blog hasn’t been updated since when?!
So at a recent leadership meeting, one of my leaders talked about a method of self motivation called carrot and stick. Your carrot is that awesome thing you want bad and will work hard for. This is your positive reinforcement. Your stick is that negative thing you do not want in your life which may be possible if you do not take action. You use this to whip your own fanny when getting out of bed and doing the work it takes to get where you want to go seems more difficult than usual. This is the negative reinforcement.
Anyone can easily come up with a carrot and stick that applies to his or her life, then call these to mind in order to stay the course and keep moving forward no matter how difficult, no matter how arduous the task, no matter how many naysayers are around to try to keep you down.
So here is what I came up with: My carrot is being financially free and able to travel with my family and help those in needs in ways that I am called by my Creator. My stick is being stuck in a “healthcare” job forever while continuing to miss all of the big events in the lives of those I love. Needless to say these are personal to me, and likely wouldn’t apply to you, or simply wouldn’t work for you. The key is to find your own carrot and stick.
Let me just say that this has helped tremendously for me! When the urge to go to bed at a decent hour hits, I remember missing Easter recently due to work. This was the first year for my son to really hunt eggs, and I had bought him a suit and would have loved seeing him in it. I stay up and I write. I go to the library to finally update this blog. I teach classes and think on ways to improve on my systems. Some day my kids and I will enjoy a nice cruise to a white sandy beach as a reward for my efforts!
So tell me, what is your carrot and stick?
Rockin’ Oily Momma
P.S. I will have more to say on self motivation in my next blog post. See you soon!
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