A quote has been going around facebook. You may have seen it and even liked it: “God doesn’t call the qualified, he qualifies the called.” I really liked this quote when I first heard it. That is until I felt a strong calling on my life, and even more so as I feel God’s call becoming louder and louder. I feel like Moses asking “Are you sure you want me, God?” I have a pretty good list of reasons to not do this. There are so very women far more qualified than myself.
I feel a strong calling toward a Titus 2 ministry, to encouraging other women in being godly wives and mothers. Why me, though? For twelve years I have made so many mistakes in my marriage. I have been an utter failure at step-parenthood. My parenting is disastrous. So why on earth would I be asked to do such a thing? The biggest reason that I can think of is that I feel as though I have been failed as a wife, as a woman who grew up in the church, and spent the better part of her life there.
You see, when I met my leader in Young Living, she mentioned Titus 2 more than once. I looked it up, and this is what I found:
“Older men are to be temperate, dignified, sensible, sound in faith, in love, in perseverance. Older women likewise are to be reverent in their behavior, not malicious gossips nor enslaved to too much wine, teaching what is good, so that they may encourage the young women to love their husbands, to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.” Titus 2:2-5 New American Standard Bible
Why had I never heard this scripture in all my years in the church? I never paid much attention to the men of the church I grew up in, other than the pastor and he absolutely fit the bill for all the character traits listed for men. The women though? I saw a few examples of women who exuded the qualities Titus states women should be and teach. I often saw and heard gossip though. Instruction from women of faith I knew was often worldly, not Biblical.
The biggest disappointment for me, though? Did I feel encouraged in loving my husband? I was clueless about how to love my husband well. I have had to find answers for myself, mainly through the books I read. Despite that I still feel like a failure more often than not because I do not have a steady example of this kind of woman in my life to watch and emulate, I am called to be one.
Despite my failures in the past, and even while continuing to fail even now, I encourage. Marriage is tough. People tell you it is, but no one is truly prepared how tough things can really get. That is why men need other men speaking Truth over them. That is why women need godly women pouring into them. That is why women need a sensible man who is sound in faith, love and perseverance as a husband to lead her.
I don’t feel prepared to start a ministry. I don’t feel that is what He wants me to do YET. I do, however, feel he wants me to encourage women going through difficult times. Having had a dear friend speak life and truth into me during my darkest hours has been an incredible blessing, and I hope to be able to bless other women in the same way. I pray that more women and men in the church will see the importance of these verses, and find ways to put them into action. I will write more soon.
~ Sara Sherrell
Rockin’ Oily Momma